When control gets in the way.

Control and ego have been showing up a lot lately in my work with senior leaders. Whether itโ€™s managing people, strategies, or emotions, control often gives a false sense of safety. And what many are discovering is when driven by fear, control doesnโ€™t actually work. The tighter we grip, the more tension we create in […]

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Why pushing through is the problem, not the solution.

A personal reminder that rest isnโ€™t weak โ€” itโ€™s wise. This past weekend, I was humbledโ€”big time. I coach others through all kinds of growth and transformation. I tend to attract bold, purpose-driven humansโ€”folks who wonโ€™t compromise on meaning, contribution, or alignment within themselves or the world around them. And yet, there I was: in […]

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You don’t have to do it alone – asking for help is a courage move!

Why is asking for help so hard in leadership? Some fear looking incompetent or weak. Others were raised and/or socialized to believe they should always have the answers. If thatโ€™s been your experience, I get it. As leaders, weโ€™re wired to be resourceful and self-sufficientโ€”but that doesnโ€™t mean we have to go it alone. Sometimes, […]

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The Relationship We Often Neglect

So many of us look outwardโ€”seeking validation, striving to contribute, giving endlessly. Itโ€™s natural. We want to belong, to make an impact. But in that pursuit, we often neglect the most important relationship: the one with ourselves. I see it all the timeโ€”leaders, business owners, and high achievers pushing so hard they become depleted, even […]

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“A mistake is not a mistake if we can learn from it.”

We’ve all heard “there’s no such thing as failure, only learning.” But how that lands really depends on the culture you create. If we treat failure punitively, we: Undermine confidence and belonging Demotivate others Create fear Disempower ideas and perspectives Stifle creativity, productivity, and growth It’s a heavy toll to pay. But when we view […]

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Emotions at Work: What Are They Telling Us?

Crying at work happens. Iโ€™ve been there in my first career, and thankfully, Iโ€™ve had peers and leaders who made space for it without shame. Often, the tears came from frustration, stress, or overwhelm. In the past, Iโ€™d leave work, embarrassed. Now, I see tears as information that can sometimes lead to new awareness and […]

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Want to Build Leadership Muscles That Stick?

Leadership evolves and so can how we approach it as individuals and with our teams. The Positive Intelligence Programโ€”refined through even more great feedback from participants and coaches around the worldโ€”gives you a simple, effective path to real growth, getting to the core of what drives our thoughts, feelings and actions. With just five minutes […]

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Breaking the Overwhelm Cycle: Taking Pause When Time Feels Tight

When weโ€™re overwhelmed, itโ€™s hard to know where to begin. Sometimes our brains feel gauzy, emotions run, behaviors slip. These can affect relational dynamics, communication, creative and strategic thinking and more. Iโ€™ve noticed a theme with people I know and partner who enter overwhelm and default to overdrive with the belief pushing harder to get […]

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International Women’s Day: Who will you inspire and impact for progress?

On this International Womenโ€™s Day, I deeply honour some of the women who have lifted me with their energy and grit over the years. ยทย ย ย ย ย ย My mother: โ€œAlways learnโ€ฆ you can do anything you believe in.โ€ ยทย ย ย ย ย ย My Wicked Stepmother: โ€œEdit yourself less.โ€ ยทย ย ย ย ย ย My late paternal grandmother of Honolulu: โ€œBe independent, never rely on a (partner), have […]

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