Assuming someone’s intentions is a tricky game. What if, instead, we considered that they’re doing the best they can with what they have?

When I took Dare to Lead™ training years ago, the masterful Laurie Hillis posed a powerful question in the BRAVING Trust component of the curriculum: “What if we believed people are doing the best they can?” That question shifted my perspective. Moments with colleagues, friends, and past interactions flashed before me. I felt lighter—more compassionate, curious, and willing to let go of assumptions.

Some situations call for feedback. Others require us to release judgment and let go, best we can. Intent may be good, but impact can still harm—those are the moments to align with our values and respond with clarity.

Next time you assume the worst of another person, what if you pause and get curious? Questions that have worked in my own reflections for now years include: “What if they were doing the best they could in that moment?” Then I might consider: “Am I okay with that? How do I clarify intent vs. impact?”

Less assumption. More understanding. Strengthened relationships.

How might your relationships shift if you assumed, just for a moment, that others are doing the best they can?